Examples of a Rigid Family System
Examples of a Rigid Family System
The house and relationships within are extremely controlled. Everything is hyper-clean. There is limited (if any) sharing of emotional information between family members even if it seems very clear there is dysfunction, it is kept secret.
At times, the system may be so rigid that it doesn’t allow any outside influences. In some homes, the blinds are always drawn. The children experience their lives as isolated from other adults and children. Their parents often have little contact with other adults and limited friendships.
There can be an air of overprotection. Sometimes children are not allowed to play outside. They are kept from activities for fear they might get hurt. They are to adhere to strict rules and strict guidelines around performance at school.
Many topics are deemed off-limits and are taboo, especially sex, drugs, peer relationships, world strife, and politics. Kids are not exposed to the age-appropriate information needed for their development and personal growth.
The system can be so tight that it doesn’t allow the individuality of each member to be expressed or seen: they aren’t allowed their own personal opinions, freedoms, expressions, or personalities.
There can be tightness around belief systems, religion, order, attire, and detail.
Very little physical affection or touch is given. There aren’t many terms of endearment shared or telling children they are loved.
