Examples of a Loose System
Examples of a Loose System
There is a feeling of chaos and potential neglect in these homes. The house is in disarray, there might not be food in the fridge, and details are often forgotten. Kids might not have new clothes and may even go without proper hygiene-care.
Kids are running around with no rules or boundaries. They are not given structure or limits so they feel unguided and perhaps even nervous about not knowing how to contain themselves or what to expect.
Over-sharing of information is common in these homes. Adults share adult information with their kids, often inappropriate for their developmental age. There might be triangulation where one parent will use their child as a confidant about all their troubles and difficulties with the other parent.
Kids are forced to grow up faster and are often parentified: they are cooking for themselves or left home alone at an early age. The older siblings might find themselves responsible for or having to protect younger siblings.
Strangers are often found in the family home or parents have a poor choice of adult friends that they welcome in the house.
Kids are exposed to inappropriate materials too early and are often unsupervised — so they might watch inappropriate movies or shows, learn about sex too early or be exposed to drugs and alcohol regularly (obviously.)
There are no doors closed or respect or privacy –especially when it comes to the bathrooms or the bedrooms!
There is too much physical contact and touch, especially that which might be unwanted– physical boundaries might often be violated.
